Enough of the ‘New Year, New Me mantra.’
Let’s aim for a New Year, and an even better you.
You need to eradicate the notion that you need to change. You don’t. You are good enough just the way you are, anything else is just a bonus.
Any steps you choose to take this new year should be purely for your own benefit and wellbeing. Most importantly, it should be because you want to. Change should stem from a place of positivity and a love for yourself, which pushes you to be even better. It shouldn’t stem from a place of dislike or shame of ourselves. We are told all the time, via the media and advertisement we consume, that there is something about us that needs fixing. Often we are told in a way that is, oh so handy for us, because they happen to have just the product to fix it. Companies are spreading the message of the need to change for their own benefit, not for yours, so don’t give them the satisfaction or business.
It is not necessary to have New Year’s Resolutions, it is not necessary to change.
New Year Resolutions, come riddled with shame and dislike for our current state. We create diets, exercise plans, promises to give up ‘vices’ such as chocolate and alcohol and other extensive life changing ideas, all in the hope that it will make us feel better about ourselves. When these plans come crashing down around the 6th of January, when we accidentally get drunk at a friend’s birthday drinks and eat a portion of cheesy chips, we feel guilt and a sense of failure.
We feel this because we think our original selves are not good enough, but we are wrong.
We are good enough.
If you have chosen to make New Year’s resolutions, think about the words you choose to make them with.
Instead of aiming to be thinner, aim to be stronger.
Aim to run faster, aim to feel confident in your clothes, aim to set personal bests, aim to feel energised, aim to be positive, aim to feel good.
This is just an example of the ever so common New Year’s Resolution to lose weight, but you will be able to find the positives in anything you plan to do. They are there, you just have to spin it in a way that you might not be used to. Don’t shame yourself for your current state, instead, just focus on improving on the platform you have already made for yourself.
Once January rolls around and you are trying new things, be patient. Forming new habits won’t occur overnight and it’s hard, really hard. Don’t let anyone fool you otherwise. There will be slip ups, there will be times you cannot commit to it because life is so unpredictable and that’s ok. There is no need to beat yourself up for existing as you are.
Don’t expect miracles straightaway, as things that are really important take time and energy to create. You will be so proud of yourself when you get there, but you should also be proud of yourself for trying and simply being in this very difficult world. Enjoy the journey, don’t just wait for the end results. The process is one of loving yourself, so try to enjoy every moment.
If things go wrong, don’t shame yourself. Instead, be kind. Treat your being as your friend, the best friend you will ever have as it is the vessel that carries you through life and allows you to experience the world.
Realise that you have lost nothing by trying, and you have lost nothing by doing what you want to do in the moment. Celebrate that you are trying, celebrate that life has obstacles which you will overcome, and celebrate that you are living.
Make your resolutions experience positive and something you are proud of.
I’m not normally very good at New Year’s Resolutions, as I have previously seen the notion of January first as arbitrary This year is different, as January just so happens to see the close of one chapter of my life and the start of a new, of which I wish to make the most of. If January first is what you need as an incentive to better yourself, go for it. If you don’t have any resolutions for the New Year, I support you and am so proud of your self love! Don’t feel pressured to have resolutions just for the sake of it, keep doing you.
My New Year’s Resolutions for 2017 are to:
- Be more sociable and build on existing relationships
- Complete work earlier to avoid last minute stress
- Exercise more to feel energised
- Eat with more awareness of the impact on my body
- Try Vegetarianism
These are going to be hard, but I am ready for the challenge and using my energy to work towards a positive outcome and a better me. The aim is for an overall upwards trend, and not to be frustrated at slip ups. I’ve spent so long not feeling good enough, I refuse to do that anymore.
I am also making simple, fun resolutions, as a recognition of what makes me happy and a commitment to being kind to myself. I recommend for you to do the same, your mind will thank you.
- Eat more ice cream
- Read more books (for fun)
- Practice more creative writing
- Listen to more 80’s pop
- Take more pictures with my friends
Best wishes to all for 2017, one day at a time,
Do you have New Year Resolutions? How do you aim to be positive? Leave a comment below.